Men’s Stories – Survivor’s Story

“Hello, once upon a time (a few years ago.) I sat in a car and rang your service. A friend had urged me to do it. I did not want to. But I did. The ringing tone started and a voice said hello, I think it was a man called Paul but I am probably wrong. It took me a while to get around to saying why I rang because I just broke down.  That call first call was first of a few. At one stage I also had a meeting with a lovely lady Andrea in the West of Ireland.

I realize this email is vague and without detail but the reason is simple. The trauma involved in walking away from a volatile 19 year marriage and ALL that entails brings with it PTSD, vague memories due to shock and deliberate avoidance of trying to recollect.


Because I rang you and because you were there, without judgement, with understanding, a listening ear, advice, support, offers of services, offers of legal help, validation and knowledge…the heartbreaking process of separation and divorce became a logical progression because you shone a torch on the darkness of silent abuse.

Anyway, My divorce is close because agreement was reached a couple of days ago.

So, this is just another story but there is not a week goes by when I don’t think of what you did for me at the darkest time.

I want to thank each and every one of you in Men’s Aid for your invaluable help. I apologize because I can’t remember times, dates or names.

Thank You.

The work you all do is phenomenal and in the true sense of the word, awesome.”



If you or anyone you know is experiencing domestic abuse, please contact our confidential helpline on 01-5543811 or [email protected]