FAQ

How do I support my friend or family member?

Men are often reluctant to seek help. Find out what you can do.

How do I contact Men's Aid Ireland for help?

Call our national Confidential Helpline: 01-5543811

Email us: [email protected].

We provide support services nationwide.

How do I make an appointment?

All clients can make one to one appointments directly with our support workers by contacting the national crisis helpline on: 01-5543811

There is also a drop in facility at our Navan office: Mon-Fri 10am-4pm.

Confidential E-mail: [email protected].

Does your service cost anything?

Men’s Aid Ireland is an Irish charity and does not apply fees to our services. However, donations are greatly appreciated.

How can I make a donation to Men's Aid Ireland work?

Please support our work through donating on our website or getting in touch.

Will Men's Aid keep my information confidential?

Men’s Aid is a strictly confidential service. However, we are governed by children’s first guidelines and are legally bound to report any incidents of child endangerment to TUSLA.

How long can I use your service?

Our services are available for as long as you need us.

Can I use your service even if I don’t want to leave my partner?

We provide specialist counselling, practical information and legal options, while respecting and supporting you in all your decisions should you decide to leave or stay in the relationship.

What is Parental Alienation?

The term Parental Alienation is one which is familiar to those engaged in supporting Victims of Domestic Violence/ and Coercive Control. Including the Judiciary, Solicitors, Barristers, Social workers, Child Protection workers and Domestic Abuse support workers and the Victim.

In the absence however of a Legal or Social definition, Men’s Aid Ireland shall use the following definition as set out below

(Parental Alienation is a deliberate attempt by one parent to distance or separate his / her children from the other parent)

Men’s Aid acknowledges that the welfare of the child is paramount. This is the cornerstone of all our interactions with Victims and has its authority in The United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child (ratified in Ireland 1992) and Children First National Guidelines for the Protection and Welfare of Children 2017 and The Children First act 2015.

In circumstances where a child may be vulnerable to harm in Domestic Violence/ conflictual relationships (Children First National Guidelines page19 para-Circumstances which may make children more vulnerable to harm) the best interests of the child are served by engaging with and reporting your concerns to Tulsa the Child and Family agency.  The agency has a statutory responsibility to promote the welfare of children who are not receiving adequate care and attention, (section 3 Child Care Act 1991).

It should be noted that Tusla are welcoming to engagement both formally and informally should you be “unsure whether you should report”. Tulsa is committed to ” helping to make our children’s lives better ” (Minister for Children and Youth Affairs 2017)

Some examples of “Parental Alienation”

  • Bad-mouthing the other parent,
  • Limiting contact with that parent,
  • Erasing the other parent from the life and mind of the child (forbidding discussion and pictures of the other parent),
  • Forcing the child to reject the other parent,
  • Creating the impression that the other parent is dangerous,
  • Forcing the child to choose between the parents by means of threats of withdrawal of affection,
  • Belittling and limiting contact with the extended family of the targeted parent                               Amy J. L. Baker © 2020.

 

Men’s Aid recommend in cases where access is being determined by the court’s consideration be given to any unnecessary time delay which may in turn impact negatively on child welfare.

Furthermore, Men’s Aid recommends that the family court should provide sufficient qualified child safety assessors to provide free reports where domestic violence or child abuse is present. They should be qualified and have expertise in the dynamics of coercive control and parental alienation/dangerousness/and prioritising safety first.

Men’s Aid recommends that the Subject of so termed “Parental Alienation” be the subject of empirical research to assist the Community and those who serve the Victim going forward.

 

By the time most men contact Men’s Aid they have may have been experiencing violence, financial abuse, coercive control, and sexual, mental and verbal abuse for many years.

Men’s Aid never advise men what to do, this has to be their choice. We provide a listening ear, and a knowledge on legal options available to them. 

We provide information on domestic violence orders, practical information on homelessness, children’s issues and family law matters regarding guardianship, custody, and access. All of which are issues men face, and sometimes a reason they stay in an abusive relationship.

We also offer one to one counselling, to help men rebuild their lives if they leave, or to support them through the trauma of domestic abuse if they choose to remain in the home.