Making a safety plan

What is a Personal Safety Plan?                         

A personal safety plan is a way of helping you to protect yourself and your children.

It helps you plan for the possibility of any future violence and or abuse. It also helps you to think about how you can increase your safety either within the relationship, or if you decide to leave.

You can’t stop your partner’s violence and abuse only they can do that.

There are things you can do to increase your own safety. You’re probably already doing some things to protect yourself and your children – for example, there may be a pattern to the violence which may enable you to plan ahead to increase your safety.


  • Plan how you might respond in different situations, including crisis situations.
  • Keep with you any important and emergency telephone numbers (for example, domestic violence service; the local Garda Station; your GP; or your social worker if you have one.
  • Teach your children to call 999 in an emergency and what they would need to say (for example, their full name, address, and telephone number)
  • Make a safety plan for your children and rehearse this with them
  • Are there neighbours’ you could trust, and where you could go in an emergency? if so, tell them what is going on, and ask them to call the Gardai if they hear sounds of a violent attack.
  • Consider your legal rights as a father seek legal advice with a solicitor/FLAC/legal Aid

Always contact An Garda Siochana if you are concerned for yours and your children’s safety by dialling 999 or 112

Preparing to Leave

Whatever coping strategies you have used – there may come a time when you feel the only option is to leave your partner.

If you do decide to leave your partner, it is best if you can plan this carefully. Sometimes abusers will increase their violence if they suspect you are thinking of leaving and will continue to do so after you have left, so this can be a particularly dangerous time for you.

Thinking about leaving and making the decision to leave can be a long process. Planning it doesn’t mean you have to carry it through immediately – or at all. But it may help to be able to consider all the options and think about how you could overcome the difficulties involved.


Preparing a safety plan will be different for everybody. Men’s Aid are here to help and support you in whatever choice you make.